My therapeutic approach

Psychotherapy is a story about creating bridges.

The psychotherapeutic relationship is a safe and creative space that enables you to explore yourself and your relationships with other people, and various other aspects of your life. Psychotherapy helps you to better understand your past experiences, but it doesn't always have to be focused on your past. It often explores how you feel, here-and-now, and the ways you can bring more vitality, creativity and happiness into your present and future life.

A general idea

As a general idea, one of the aims of therapy is to help you feel more authentic and comfortable with yourself. This is done by slowly finding ways to feel, think, express and do what you have learnt to avoid feeling, thinking, expressing and doing, so you can have access to more of yourself.

You will be able to recognise your strengths as well as the lost or shattered pieces of yourself, and gather them into coherent stories about who you are in the word and where you want to take yourself further.

Probably most of all, psychotherapy is a story about creating bridges.

 

Between what you love and what you hate, and the multiple parts of yourself.
Between difficulties and resources.
Between where you are now and where you want to arrive.
Between how you present yourself to the world and how you really feel inside.
Between accepting your faults and limitations and the desire to improve.
Between loneliness and belonging.
Between certainty and confusion.
Between laughter and cry.
Between fear and daring.
Between your own darkness and light.

 

And musical perspective...

Here's a song by Dianne Reeves, one of the warmest and most powerful jazz voices I have ever heard, picturing what I understand as metaphors of the search for relationships that unites people.

 

Dianne Reeves – “Bridges” Lyrics

I have crossed a thousand bridges
In my search for something real
There were great suspension bridges
Made like spider webs of steel
There were tinny wooden trestles
And there were bridges made of stone
I have always been a stranger and
I’ve always been alone

There’s a bridge to tomorrow
There’s a bridge to the past
There’s a bridge made of sorrow
That I pray will not last
There’s a bridge made of color
In the sky high above
And I pray that there must be
Bridges made out of love

I can see him in the distance
On the river’s other shore
And his arms reach out in longing
As my own have done before
And I call across to tell him
Where I believe the bridge must lie
And I’ll find it
Yes I’ll find it
If I search until I die

When the bridges is between us
We’ll have nothing to say
We will run thru the sunlight
And he’ll meet me halfway
There’s a bridge made of color
In the sky high above
And I know that there must be
Bridges made out of love

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